What would you do if you were the son in this situation?

[Dwayne]

Sounds like they are not close so I wouldn’t pay for anything

 

[Black_Samson]

Sit this one out, man. You’re arguing against a point that no one is making.

I stopped at page 1.
That was enough disloyalty for me.

Too many that were willing to pay that debt.

Shits sick.

 

[Duwop]

Nah yall niggas be fronting

U a grudge holding nigga like I am

Naw, I do not hold grudges at all. I'm actually highly dismissive if primitive emotions like spite and pettiness....

I'm literally above it.

 

[Elzo69Renaissance]

Naw, I do not hold grudges at all. I'm actually highly dismissive if primitive emotions like spite and pettiness....

I'm literally above it.

U never pressed someone for some shit they did earlier on?

U never had to find someone and press them for disrespecting ur sister?

 

[Freeman]

Most father's want their sons to be a better man than they were.

This implies he was wrong in what he was doing tho. From what im surmising he was cheated on, got divorced and tried to take his kids with him, the girls chose to stay with the mother and her new man, he tried to foster a relationship with the girls but they denied him, when they found out he was up they came ran to him to be bailed out financially but he refused, he dies and leaves an inheritance to his son.

So giving them the money would make his son a better man? I didn't read anything that made it seem like he wasn't an exemplary one.

 

[Freeman]

Nosign? @mryounggun

Use your words.

 

[deadeye]

Heard about this a few days ago.

He left them out of his will for a reason.


If anything, since the sisters chose their stepfather over their father, they should be asking the stepfather to help them pay off their student loans.

They should also ask their mom for money since, ultimately, she's responsible for them not having a relationship with their father since she chose to cheat on him and divorce him.


As far as the son is concerned, he needs to honor his father's wishes and not let his sisters guilt-trip him into sharing his inheritance with them.

 

[mryounggun]

Nosign? @mryounggun

Use your words.

First sentence. I just don’t necessarily agree that him potentially wanting his son to be a better man than him implies that he’s wrong in his decision not to give his daughter any money when he was alive.

 

[deadeye]

I didn't say this before, because I tend to think about these sorts of things differently than most. But we have no information that suggests that his father's wishes were 'Don't give any of this money to your sisters'. And there are definitely ways he could have done that. If he has an estate and left money to anybody, that means he could have added any stipulation he wanted about how to the money is to be spent. But he chose not to do that.

The ONLY thing we know about the father's wishes as it relates to the money he had was 'When I die, the money goes to my son'.

it's an assumption that the father wanted his son to not give his sister's anything after he died.

He's not wrong either way. Because it's HIS money. But for me, his father's wishes about his own money become irrelevant when it's no longer his money.

No indication???

He didn't leave them anything in his will.


That's indication enough.

 

[deadeye]

, based on the facts (the father already refused to give his daughters money for their loans when he was alive and he made the choice not to leave any money to them when he died), it's a safe assumption.

Don't know why this is so hard to understand.

 

[deadeye]

My nigga Elzo in here fighting for his life. Lol. Nigga just grabbing at whatever he can grab.

It’s cool man.

 

[Freeman]

First sentence. I just don’t necessarily agree that him potentially wanting his son to be a better man than him implies that he’s wrong in his decision not to give his daughter any money when he was alive.

Ok then what does saying that have to do with the context of what we're talking about in the thread if that wasn't being implied?

Naturally parents want their child to be the better person. Just seemed silly to throw out there in context of the thread. It's accusatory.

Or are we just speaking metaphorically because we have nothing else to say...

 

[Freeman]

Heard about this a few days ago.

He left them out of his will for a reason.


If anything, since the sisters chose their stepfather over their father, they should be asking the stepfather to help them pay off their student loans.

They should also ask their mom for money since, ultimately, she's responsible for them not having a relationship with their father since she chose to cheat on him and divorce him.


As far as the son is concerned, he needs to honor his father's wishes and not let his sisters guilt-trip him into sharing his inheritance with them.

Shouldn't be asking anyone tbf. They took those loans. Nobody is beholden to pay them off but them.

 

[deadeye]

Shouldn't be asking anyone tbf. They took those loans. Nobody is beholden to pay them off but them.

 

[mryounggun]

Ok then what does saying that have to do with the context of what we're talking about in the thread if that wasn't being implied?

Naturally parents want their child to be the better person. Just seemed silly to throw out there in context of the thread. It's accusatory.

Or are we just speaking metaphorically because we have nothing else to say...

I mean, you’d have to ask the person who brought it up. I can give you my assessment, but Du might feel differently.

For me, the ‘be better than me’ indicates a desire to want your children to be more benevolent than you and handle the same situations with more grace than you. But that doesn’t mean that you think you’re wrong in how YOU handled it. Just that you recognize that there might be another alternative that might be better or healthier or whatever the fuck.

If I’m at the gym hooping and a nigga says something to me on the court that’s SUPER disrespectful, I might punch him in the face. But I hope my son, if he found himself in that same situation, would handle that differently. That doesn’t mean I’m wrong for punching a nigga in the face for being disrespectful. It just means that I recognize that there are other options and I hope my son exercises one of those options.