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For one I thought it was funny that it's my name and says she is a single parent of one, like myself. I also have a fear of my child not being accepted or treated as a grandchild to my new man's family. I don't care for all the lavish gifts, I just want him to be loved and accepted. Growing up my brothers were welcomed with open arms to my fathers side of the family. My grandmother made sure she included them in everything and I was included in my stepdads family. It's a rare thing.

Candy was wrong however because it wasn't her place to do take a gift back. I understand why she did it but nah.
 
only if she couldn't afford shoes for the other kid......

sorry, but that's her right to make that decision
 
that's like if someone buy me a 61 inch tv still in the box with the receipt, but we ain't got no groceries....

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That granny isn't obligated to do SHIT for the other kid. Candy is wrong for taking the gift back, period.
 
BNE said:
The granny isn't obligated to do shit for either kid. Candy shouldn't have married a bitchmade mama's boy who lets his mother ignore his stepchild.

Candy is dumb as hell for not putting her child first when choosing to marry this guy.
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Get out ur feelings before we continue this debate. That entire post is a contradiction.


U start by saying the granny isnt obligated to do shit. Then call the dude a bitch because his granny isnt obligated to do shit? man stfu
 
BNE said:
the grandma doesn't owe either child anything technically n she can gift as she wishes, but the only connection to the grandma is via Candy's husband. The grandma is communicating where Candy n Candy's firstborn stand. Candy is spineless n not putting her child 1st by allowing that. She should've never entered that situation.

Disgusts me.
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I see your point, but not everyone is as attentive when it comes to these things, admittedly there is no way she would've known this was gonna before she married the new husband. She didn't know the grandma was going to be inconsiderate, but before going to such extremes as divorce I think they should talk it out first and see where it goes.
 
Not the same but I met my 3 brothers on my fathers side as an adult . One time my oldest brother was having a get together at his house and my paternal grandmother refused to come because I was there. Like it was my fault. To this day she refuses to meet me. At first it hurt and I was an adult. I can only imagine that it hurt both kids to the core for different reasons. Everyone was wrong in this situation but at the end of the day the man should be able to control his mother and not let her affect his home. But I hope that the child that received the gift understands why they can't keep it and the child that didn't get it understands why they didn't.
 
BNE said:
imo theres no better reason for divorce. snubbing her eldest is a perfectly valid response. if it continued n the grandma was still welcome in the house, Candy's husband was condoning it. By staying, Candy is accepting that treatment n the message it sends. Shes failing as a parent to her oldest. That's the issue, idgaf bout the shoes they can stay or they can go.
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PM me let me help you by tearing down that wall of pain with words of encouragement and postive thoughts.
 
BNE said:
imo theres no better reason for divorce. snubbing her eldest is a perfectly valid response. if it continued n the grandma was still welcome in the house, Candy's husband was condoning it. By staying, Candy is accepting that treatment n the message it sends. Shes failing as a parent to her oldest. That's the issue, idgaf bout the shoes they can stay or they can go.
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Trini, it's not past the point of no return yet, she can try and work it out with the g-ma. If that fails then it she should motion for divorce on but before then would be an overreaction imo
 
BNE said:
what is there to work out? if it happened repeatedly, surely that ashy tramp can swallow arsenic?
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But it doesn't say that she confronted her husband or her mother in law about the behavior, she's just letting it happen. If anything both candy and her husband are being doormats.........
 
Grandma isn't obligated to do shit for a child that's not related to her. My grandmother didn't have to do half the shit she did for my brothers, but she did. I mean I got more than them, every time she got me something. My brothers weren't getting something. This situation was basically my granny accepting my two younger brothers.

Now as far as me, I was the child from a previous marriage. My stepdads family accepted me, I was like 2-3. When my two brothers came along, of course their grandmother went over and beyond for them and somethings I wasn't included in. I was cool though.

Grandma is not responsible for picking up on shit that the others parent or grandparents are lacking in. Would it be thoughtful, yes but she ain't gotta do a damn thing for that child.

So to say a grandma isn't obligated to do for either of the kids is a stretch because if granny ain't obligated to do for her own blood, she for damn sure ain't obligated to do shit for a mf who ain't no kin to her.
 
BNE said:
u r right, they r both being doormats but Candy's transgression is greater cuz its her who has a duty to her eldest. she's failing. returning some shoes aint gon fix that.
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But you don't think that she can resolve the situation? It seems that she's finally had her fill of the bs, and is ready to confront the g-ma, give her a chance trini
 
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