Doing Sideway Things without Telling your Spouse/Partner

[Knock_Twice]

Was watching this shit on Netflix called Blue Therapy or some shit, couples going to Therapy. It was pretty good, 8 or 9 couples, I think all their shit is doom or going to pits.

But there were two couples on giving their testimonies, about having issues with their spouse/partner doing shit behind their backs.

One dude was supposed to freeze his sperm, but he didn't. Wife had a fit when she found out that he didn't freeze his stuff (she finds out right there on the couch by the way) (but this the same woman who filed for a divorce on the nigga bday) Dude didn't want any more babies, he wanted to work on his marriage with her, he told her that he didn't want any more children, She wanted a 4th child and never listened to his feelings etc. The issue, that the therapist stated to the dude was that he should have shared that situation with the wife? I honestly thought the therapist was taking up for the chick.

I said, his body, his decision, (which is the reverse shit when a woman take into consideration with aborting)



The second couple, the chick was sending 10% of her money back to her family, in her hometown. The dude finds out and dayum near wanted to bat the piss outta that chick.
I mean, I was like, it's her money, what's the fuss.


To those on here who are dealing with chicks or dudes, how do you feel about your spouse doing side shit without your knowledge?

 

[Duwop]

It happens. Just gotta communicate with an open mind, and be honest and how y'all move in the future.

 

[Knock_Twice]

It happens. Just gotta communicate with an open mind, and be honest and how y'all move in the future.

You think dude should have told his wife bout his decision that he made?

 

[The question]

I think the key to life is don’t be in any relationships. Find friends that like to fuck you occasionally.

 

[AP4.0]

I think the key to life is don’t be in any relationships. Find friends that like to fuck you occasionally.

Nigga what??

 

[The question]

Nigga what??

 

[mryounggun]

If we agreed that I'd freeze my sperm in order to potentially have another kid at some point...and then I tell my wife that I froze my sperm and lied to her about it...then it comes out during therapy that I lied to her about it...it's pretty reasonable that she would be upset about that.

But the original post doesn't really make it clear if that's what actually happened.

Just in general though, I wouldn't be upset at my wife keeping certain shit from me, depending on what it is. If it affects me to any real degree and she keeps it from me, I'd prolly have an issue. If she outright lies about something, I'm gonna have an issue with that.

 

[Duwop]

I think the key to life is don’t be in any relationships. Find friends that like to fuck you occasionally.

I understand where you coming from, cuz I've said plenty of times before, if I get divorced, I'm never re-marryying.

For personal reasons I want all my kids to have the same two parents. And I don't have enough room in my life for that much of another person. I don't have the emotional capacity to go through all of this again. I don't want a whole nother family of in-laws. I don't wanna meet that many new people. I don't wanna go through that stage of people that are close to her wanting to meet me, and see if I'm any good for her.

That was some shit I was willing to go through in my 20's, and I hated it then. I don't have the patience to ever go thru that again.

But I absolutely love my wife, and I'm fully committed to our union, and would have it no other way.

But if she gotta go, I ain't doing this shit all over again with a new chick.