COMMUNITY A short and simple story about men’s mental health

[AP4.0]

I'm glad y'all can have a real dialogue about what's on your mind.

Props @Busta Carmichael for this thread, straight up.


Question:

Men, would you be insulted if your woman suggested that you could benefit from talking to a therapist/psychiatrist?

I wouldn't

I would appreciate she noticed the signs of a larger issue that she's not equipped enough to handle on her own

 

[Chi-Town B]

This is true

Now as a grown man I can tell who acting and who really about the shit they talk about


like I said..listening to that kid NLE Choppa

he really is off. Its just not normal for someone so young to talk about murder with such conviction

But look at the violence in these hoods and look who's doing it, it's these teens. I can see these youngsters only rapping about killing because it's what they see.

 

[Whis Khalifa]

I wouldn't

I would appreciate she noticed the signs of a larger issue that she's not equipped enough to handle on her own

It's easy to get defensive when someone acknowledges mental instability... First instinct is to deny anything is wrong from what I've seen...

Would you be receptive to therapy? Do you believe it could work?

 

[BDP™️]

But look at the violence in these hoods and look who's doing it, it's these teens. I can see these youngsters only rapping about killing because it's what they see.

This is true...

its def not normal to see murder and violence

If trained soldiers are fucked up from combat I can only imagine the trauma these kids exp

 

[🌊City]

Lol if my woman can't be my therapist then what the fuck we together for?

Follow up question, will she be recommending a sex worker also?

What about a cook?

 

[Whis Khalifa]

Lol if my woman can't be my therapist then what the fuck we together for?

Follow up question, will she be recommending a sex worker also?

What about a cook?

It's not a woman's job to therapize you, tf lol

The best I can do is listen to him and offer advice based on my experience but if he think I can fix his bipolar, PTSD, OCD behaviors, I'm not the one.

That's what professionals are for.

Lol women got their own mental issues to deal with, it sounds crazy to me to try to fix someone else.

But I'm single so take from that what you will.

 

[Loquacious]

Lol if my woman can't be my therapist then what the fuck we together for?

Follow up question, will she be recommending a sex worker also?

What about a cook?

??? this is so funny. I legit try to be a therapist but I ain’t qualified. Your woman shouldn’t be your therapist. She definitely should be a shoulder to lean on and a someone you can confide in but you gotta get a specialist for some stuff.

 

[🌊City]

It's not a woman's job to therapize you, tf lol

The best I can do is listen to him and offer advice based on my experience but if he think I can fix his bipolar, PTSD, OCD behaviors, I'm not the one.

That's what professionals are for.

Lol women got their own mental issues to deal with, it sounds crazy to me to try to fix someone else.

But I'm single so take from that what you will.

Not a womans job, but a partners job. We would be there to theraprize (?) each other.

All a therapist is gonna do is listen and offer the best solution for you anyways. If my old lady cant do that......what is she there for?

Now I'm speaking in mild cases. If you got moderate to severe bouts with mental health I wouldn't advise getting into any relationships until that is under control anyway

Or let's figure whats the best kind 'ship' for us and move forward like that

 

[konceptjones]

I'm glad y'all can have a real dialogue about what's on your mind.

Props @Busta Carmichael for this thread, straight up.


Question:

Men, would you be insulted if your woman suggested that you could benefit from talking to a therapist/psychiatrist?

For her to suggest it would mean that I let her in enough to know what my issues are. I've only ever let one woman that close to me and it damned sure wasn't my wife.

But... if the one I did let in suggested I would benefit from therapy I would have been receptive to it 'cause I knew she had my best interest at heart from a genuine place of caring.

 

[🌊City]

??? this is so funny. I legit try to be a therapist but I ain’t qualified. Your woman shouldn’t be your therapist. She definitely should be a shoulder to lean on and a someone you can confide in but you gotta get a specialist for some stuff.

Some stuff...agreed

Majority of the things should be confided in ya partner

 

[Loquacious]

Some stuff...agreed

Majority of the things should be confided in ya partner

Absolutely but when it’s some serious mental shit, go see a doctor. Bring your partner with you.

 

[🌊City]

Absolutely but when it’s some serious mental shit, go see a doctor. Bring your partner with you.

Hmmmm. I think I maybe insulted if she recommends a therapist lol

If I done gave her my brain and she said nah, this to much for me, I'd pull away from the relationship. Dating wouldn't be an option personally but we could still be cool

What's y'all favorite line....we be better as friends

 

[Loquacious]

Hmmmm. I think I maybe insulted if she recommends a therapist lol

If I done gave her my brain and she said nah, this to much for me, I'd pull away from the relationship. Dating wouldn't be an option personally but we could still be cool

What's y'all favorite line....we be better as friends

What if she gives you the best advice she could possibly give you but it still doesn’t help you? What do you suggest she do then? Ignore the issue, just as you would/do?

 

[AP4.0]

It's easy to get defensive when someone acknowledges mental instability... First instinct is to deny anything is wrong from what I've seen...

Would you be receptive to therapy? Do you believe it could work?

I went to therapy for a while after my divorce.

The only reason I haven't gone recently is because I'm trying to find someone else to help me reach the next level of where I want to be mentally and emotionally. My previous years therapist helped me reach my last goal and our time had come to an end.

 

[🌊City]

What if she gives you the best advice she could possibly give you but it still doesn’t help you? What do you suggest she do then? Ignore the issue, just as you would/do?

Idk. I'm wrecking my brain and maybe making it too personal as it relates to me

I'd like to think the average to above average woman could help keep my mental facilities in check and vice versa. I do agree for the more severe cases that a specialist is needed but the mild shit I got going on? Idk

It's one of those things that I'd like to say we'd find out in the dating stages.

 

[AP4.0]

Idk. I'm wrecking my brain and maybe making it too personal as it relates to me

I'd like to think the average to above average woman could help keep my mental facilities in check and vice versa. I do agree for the more severe cases that a specialist is needed but the mild shit I got going on? Idk

It's one of those things that I'd like to say we'd find out in the dating stages.

One of mankind's biggest issues is the inability to recognize when we need help

Your partner isn't less of a support system if they can't handle all your bullshit that comes with being with you.

I would rather unload that shit on someone else so that I can be my best self when my partner and I come together. How many relationships have ended because people were too stubborn to speak with someone without a vested interest?

We get so caught up in trying to work shit out work our mates that sometimes we lose sight of the shit they go through. Are you really equipped to have her dump all her shit out on you?

Let me speak for myself. I ain't. We not talking about joint accounts vs separate accounts here. We're talking about a lot of pressures that we face on a daily basis that sometimes make us bottle the shit up and keep it inside until it reaches a boiling point.

If there's someone who can help me manage that so that I'm not taking it out on my partner, then sign me up

 

[🌊City]

One of mankind's biggest issues is the inability to recognize when we need help

Your partner isn't less of a support system if they can't handle all your bullshit that comes with being with you.

I would rather unload that shit on someone else so that I can be my best self when my partner and I come together. How many relationships have ended because people were too stubborn to speak with someone without a vested interest?

We get so caught up in trying to work shit out work our mates that sometimes we lose sight of the shit they go through. Are you really equipped to have her dump all her shit out on you?

Let me speak for myself. I ain't. We not talking about joint accounts vs separate accounts here. We're talking about a lot of pressures that we face on a daily basis that sometimes make us bottle the shit up and keep it inside until it reaches a boiling point.

If there's someone who can help me manage that so that I'm not taking it out on my partner, then sign me up

I think I am.....

And if I ain't.....ehhh

 

[Loquacious]

I just seen this online. I hope the men in my life know they can open up to me.

 

[Busta Carmichael]

I'm glad y'all can have a real dialogue about what's on your mind.

Props @Busta Carmichael for this thread, straight up.


Question:

Men, would you be insulted if your woman suggested that you could benefit from talking to a therapist/psychiatrist?

I'd appreciate it and that she noticed that somethings on my mind.

But not gonna lie, I'd feel weird that my woman would feel that I need help and am not stable person.

Don't know, tough question.

 

[Busta Carmichael]

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I just seen this online. I hope the men in my life know they can open up to me.

Was gonna say that the other day in the other thread.

For y'all that have little boys, please let them know that its OK to talk about how they feel.

Speaking from experience of being shamed for it and keeping things bottled up, its not good at all.