Thoughts on Valentine’s Day

Goldie said:
Don't do that lol Cuz I can easily say your p.o.v is the exception and not the rule, unless we go out and survey every woman in america neither of us can say that.


Also I never said the last thing on ur list. I think valentine's day is for the women, I don't believe it's for the men. Now if she gets u something, that's cool, but I never expect anything on Vday.

So to go back to ur original point, a woman has to be 'perfect' because she doesn't require expensive gifts? lmaoo cmon fam, you're better than this. That doesn't require her to be perfect, that requires her to not be a bird and to be realistic. Niggas aint got thousands to pay for some designer shit or to buy one of those planes to write something in the sky for her lol I won't say most, but A LOT of women will be happy with a gift that comes from the heart.
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why dont you require your lady to do for you?

its a day of love....does she not love you as you love her?

so what days do guys have? when do we get appreciated?

i fully agree with you and AP21...you both have points.....but i think its too much placed on what the man should do versus what a man does do already.

yes, we can say well its just another day to do what you already do, yet again. but why? what am i proving for on this particular day?

so what if i do shit all week and not on friday..does my chick have a right to be mad? because in theory its just another day i can do something to show her i love her.

at what does it get to ...i love you and i show you constantly. can we not place this day above all the rest.

I am curios @Kandy
Do you speak to people about what you do for your man on vday? do they give you funny looks or do they have a story about what they did as well without it being related to sex? I would love to hear the reactions you get. I hope you are around good people that are like you. wifey does tons of shit for me...so i get it. and from a dude....we feel like we on Boss level.
 
Goldie said:
Unfortunately most niggas don't know their father lol so that explains that.

So just cuz I do something for my mother on mother's day, doesn't mean I don't care about her any other day, it's just the official day to show your mother how much u love her. Same with valentine's day, it's just the official day to show your lady how much u care about her. If you know that'll make ur lady happy, just do it, it's not that serious lol
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but who made it official? and who we following?

if i give something on the 15th does that mean i have a side chick?
 
Blactivity said:
You can ask why any other hoilday/special event matters also. I'm not saying men should be out spending large amounts of money, dipping into savings, selling plasma and kidneys and shit. It's not even a monetary thing for me. It's just nice to give and receive and watch how people react to it. I give gifts also. Cute cards, cologne, scented sprays, candy, stuffed animals, balloons, flowers, something they have been wanting, etc. I even get my mom, my grandmas, little cousins, and aunties something. I have made all of these people smile spending the max of maybe $10/person. Mane I guess my people and I are different from most lol. It's not as stressful as yall making it, or maybe it has been bc of the type of women yall have dealt with. They seem a bit ungrateful and high maintenance, but what do expect otherwise from a chick like that lol? Sorry they made you feel this way.

Ofc, well imo, the little and big things that are done over the year to express your love isn't overlooked and would not be ruined by VDay.

What about the kids? The kids don't get anything either? In Alabama, every child in K-12 has had a VDay party and whatnot at school. It's just another day to show love, hug a loved one a little tighter, kiss them a little longer. It shouldn't trump the things you do throughout the year. It's just cute mane.
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ok...so this is the second woman who admitted to doing something for her man.....

so yall unicorns. lol

real shit......its hard to find a chick that will do something for her man on that day outside of bussing it open
 
Goldie said:
Feeling the day should be for both is understandable, technically it should be, but I look at it as, after I do w.e I do for my woman on v.day to make her happy, seeing her reaction and her happy is my gift. A happy wife is a happy life, don't make things difficult when it doesn't have to be my niggas.


Regarding the latter, I wouldn't necessarily call her a bird, but that is a sign selfishness. If a shorty is really tripping cuz a dude has a something set up for the 15th, something's wrong with her lol

I guess I've been very lucky lol cuz I've never had a chick that stressed getting big gifts.
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should i shred this now or in another thread.

this saying is bullshit.....im ready to fight now.
 
DOS_patos said:
ok...so this is the second woman who admitted to doing something for her man.....

so yall unicorns. lol

real shit......its hard to find a chick that will do something for her man on that day outside of bussing it open
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I know more women like me than the other.
 
DOS_patos said:
why dont you require your lady to do for you?

its a day of love....does she not love you as you love her?

so what days do guys have? when do we get appreciated?

i fully agree with you and AP21...you both have points.....but i think its too much placed on what the man should do versus what a man does do already.

yes, we can say well its just another day to do what you already do, yet again. but why? what am i proving for on this particular day?

so what if i do shit all week and not on friday..does my chick have a right to be mad? because in theory its just another day i can do something to show her i love her.

at what does it get to ...i love you and i show you constantly. can we not place this day above all the rest.

I am curios @Kandy
Do you speak to people about what you do for your man on vday? do they give you funny looks or do they have a story about what they did as well without it being related to sex? I would love to hear the reactions you get. I hope you are around good people that are like you. wifey does tons of shit for me...so i get it. and from a dude....we feel like we on Boss level.
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Yes I do. Some people are with it and some ain’t.
 
DOS_patos said:
@Kandy @Blactivity

i got a question for you ladies.


why fight so hard for this one day?

why doesnt the other days of the year matter?

If more ladies push the rest of the year vs just the day, wouldnt you see if he puts in the effort on a consistent basis.

are you not worth more than just a day?

now @Meeks said she loved her balloons and teddy bear.

now lets keep it 100....how many ladies would be ok with that?

niggas really gotta go out there way and make a chick queen for a day and most of the time its not coming back to him.

then the next day at work is when the fights happen. when chicks exchange their stories and the chick whos guy who did do enough ...she comes down on him when she gets home.

so not only does the man need to do a majority of the courting...but he must make a lady feel special on a certain day more than feeling special outside of that. can you not see how that can be draining on a dude?

so last question.....would you discredit all your man did during the previous year to question why he didnt do nothing on this day?
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I’m not fighting for the holiday. I’m just trying to understand y’alls logic. I’ve been in a relationship where one valentine we ain’t do nothing and I was cool with it. Y’alls reasoning behind not gifting is just dumb.
 
I just don't see the big deal. As I've said, I bought my ex something for V-Day one year.

Furthermore, you mean to tell me men actually marry women that they didn't know were materialistic as fuck especially on Valentine's day? Ya'll do know that all women are not that way and don't want expensive shit on that day right? Lawd.
 
And people looked at me crazy when I said I didn't celebrate Christmas lmao...sheesh.
 
Kandy said:
I’m not fighting for the holiday. I’m just trying to understand y’alls logic. I’ve been in a relationship where one valentine we ain’t do nothing and I was cool with it. Y’alls reasoning behind not gifting is just dumb.
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nah its not...

i do think some people are riding a wave from others and some legit dont like the pressure as yet others dont like it not being equal.
 
Meeks said:
I just don't see the big deal. As I've said, I bought my ex something for V-Day one year.

Furthermore, you mean to tell me men actually marry women that they didn't know were materialistic as fuck especially on Valentine's day? Ya'll do know that all women are not that way and don't want expensive shit on that day right? Lawd.
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i think a certain type of women requires certain things because she knows she can get it....if not from one then another.

its crazy but alot of people marry people and dont know who they married or thought things would change or get better.

its sad.
 
DOS_patos said:
i think a certain type of women requires certain things because she knows she can get it....if not from one then another.

its crazy but alot of people marry people and dont know who they married or thought things would change or get better.

its sad.
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Marriage does not mean better.
That's like marrying someone who has a gambling problem and thinking they'll stop because they're married now. If your woman liked expensive things before ya'll got married, she'll definitely like it afterwards.
 
Meeks said:
Marriage does not mean better.
That's like marrying someone who has a gambling problem and thinking they'll stop because they're married now. If your woman liked expensive things before ya'll got married, she'll definitely like it afterwards.
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i agree.....

i just always find it strange when people think it will be different or they can handle it
 
Before my job moved...every Vday a couple of my coworkers would get flowers sent to the job...EVERY...VDAY. And each year these hefas would act "surprised" they got flowers sent.

If I didn't know any better, I swear they were ordering their own flowers, just out do each other. Lol
 
IP360 said:
Before my job moved...every Vday a couple of my coworkers would get flowers sent to the job...EVERY...VDAY. And each year these hefas would act "surprised" they got flowers sent.

If I didn't know any better, I swear they were ordering their own flowers, just out do each other. Lol
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lol who hurt u fam, let's talk about it :cont:
 
Lol,don’t fall for it @IP360
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DOS_patos said:
how long you been your lady bruh?

cause you cant be out here running the hoe train and not come across some of these chicks.

or are you the nigga that breaks up every feb 10?
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Damn, I have done that before couple times ,usually before Christmas.... I know,I know I ain’t shit
 
DOS_patos said:
how long you been your lady bruh?

cause you cant be out here running the hoe train and not come across some of these chicks.

or are you the nigga that breaks up every feb 10?
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I've dealt with birds, but luckily I've never wifed one. So i've never got to the point where I'm scorned af and think the worse of women lol Some of yall sounding like the male version of Scottie beam


 
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